Unlearning “My”

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Stanysha Lowery

<i>"Hello" in your host country's language:</i> Hello <i>Home Institution (your U.S. University/College):</i> University of North Carolina at Greensboro <i>Expected graduation year:</i> 2022 <i>Destination city & country:</i> Seoul, South Korea <i>Program provider:</i> Yonsei International Summer School <i>Major/minor:</i> Psychology / Human Development and Family Studies <i>Demographics:</i> African American/Black, First-Generation College Student <i>Future career aspirations:</i> My future career goals include me becoming either a Social or Developmental Psychologist serving and working with underepresented and often ignored communities and individuals. <i>Top 3 goals for your time abroad:</i> My top three goals for my time abroad are: Learn Korean and become a beginner in the language, become acquainted with other students and professors, and immerse myself in South Korean culture by trying new foods, going sightseeing, and learning through every experience that I encounter.

Being in collectivistic culture and coming from an individualistic culture has allowed me to let go of possessive vocabulary. “My” does not belong in a culture where sharing is the norm. The food portions here are really big, and I had not understood why until I realized that food is supposed to be shared. Most restaurants offer a small plate, which I thought was for appetizers, but I started to use them to get a share of the food that I and my friends ordered. On metros, in lines, or just outside, there is no such thing as “personal space.” Letting go of what I believe is mine has been an adjustment, but an intriguing one. I enjoy being a small part of something bigger than what appears.

Enjoy some photos from my trip to the Olympic Park!